Tag: parenting toddlers

Admittedly, in my own home with my own children, sometimes they resist my requests to participate in the work I do. Currently that work is in the form of my new book, Look At Us Now; a creative family journal. I’ll say something like, “Hey, let’s fill out a page!” And the response will be something like, “MAAAH-AAAAHM.”

teens filling out pageLast week I was encouraged when a reader sent me pictures of her own teens filling out pages in their copy of their book. Her teens resisted at first, but she persevered and asked them to just do one page with her. They agreed and by the time they were finished they had filled out THREE pages and were all laughing together, plotting out adventures and recapping moments worth noting. And they decided two things: 1. that it was not only not so bad but actually kind of fun and 2. that they would sit down weekly and fill out more pages together. As the creator of this book, knowing that I have captured the attention of the reluctant teens and that I have given this family a few moments of fun connection, I feel my mission is accomplished!

Families are using Look At Us Now in all sorts of ways. Some are using it as a Sunday morning ritual. Others are family selfieusing it as a tool for bribery such as one mom who tells her kids they can earn their desired screen time if they fill out one page together. One mom used it to create connection with her step-daughter. Another family I know took it on their family road trip so that they could both capture their adventures and have a fun family activity to do together in the car. And one family told me they keep it in the car to fill out as they’re running errands around town. The kids take turns filling it out while the parent drives and conversations are had they might not ever have otherwise. In all cases, what I’m told by readers is that EVERYONE is digging it and really, really having fun together! And at the same time capturing some family moments that might otherwise be forgotten.

sample page 1I decided to try again with my own offspring. I had a chance to dine with just one of my teens this week and we took the book to the restaurant with us. As we waited for our food we opened to the page: ONE THING WE WANT TO MAKE HAPPEN. Originally I imagined this page for satisfying long-term plans but realized instantly it was also a good page for some more immediate goals. By the time our food arrived we had a plan in place for a family day trip next week to a nearby water park. As you can see, not only did we set the goal, but we put all the pieces in place too to actually make it happen. Like soon! Like next week.

How are you using Look At Us Now?* What good things have come from your family’s copy? What discoveries have you made about your own family life? Send me a sample and let me know! Id’ love to see. Or join me on Facebook at the Slow Family Living page and get inspired!

 

*If you want to leave a review on Amazon I wouldn’t mind that either!

 

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We love this question. And more than the question itself, we love the answer ,because the answer actually doesn’t come from us, it comes from within each parent. And it can change from day to day, hour to hour even.

So many times we are told, as parents, that “we must be consistent with our children.” And that is true. The missing piece to this answer however is that the consistency isn’t in the behaviour or in the schedule or in the rules applied, rather the consistency is in the temperment of the parent. In other words, the boundary lies within.

If one day you are well rested and feeling strong and capable as a parent, then you might feel totally fine with letting your 3 year old climb to the top of a very big slide and slide down. “Hooray!” You say as they reach the bottom. If however you are tired, or mentally preoccupied, or stressed out or distracted, that same slide another day might seem too overwhelming, so the boundary then shifts, within you, and that day the slide is off limits.

“But won’t my child be confused?”

Perhaps they will for a minute. But when you say no to them in as kind a way as you say yes, and you tell them, “I know you want to go up there but I’m really not up for it today. I know you did it last week, but you’ll have to wait until another day because today it’s freaking me out.”

In the big picture of parenthood and childhood, it is far better for the child to melt down from the no, than for the parent to melt down in the allowing something that is freaking them out. Because the end result of the parent freaking out is that the kid feels wrong or shamed or uncertain of whether your yes means yes or no or ends up freaking out anyway.

What do you think about that?

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This is a two part series that offers you both an introduction to toddlerhood and an overview on the whys and ways of staying sane, setting boundaries and having more fun.

We will be offering this 2-part workshop on Thursday May 14 and Thursday May 21 from 7-9pm

Part 1 – Know Thy Toddler: Tips and Tools for Parenting Your 1-3 year old

Let’s face it, parenting a toddler can be very challenging. Being a toddler is hard work, too. In the midst of massive brain and body development, they are asserting their own opinions and desperate to explore the world around them. As a result, this can leave you exhausted and at a loss for how to traverse their emotional terrain.

Toddlerhood is a world unto itself. Join us to learn the ins and outs of this phase of life.

During our time together you will:

  • Discover insightful and important information about this exceptional phase of development
  • Gain a whole new perspective on what it means to parent a toddler
  • Learn why this time of life can be so challenging for parents and how you can make it less so
  • Gather useful and effective tools for navigating these years with your growing child in ways that are fun and connected.

Part 2 – The Whys and Ways of Staying Sane, Setting Boundaries and Having More Fun

Are you committed to positive parenting but find yourself at a loss when times are tough between you and your child? Do you wish you had some tools for creating more harmony, cooperation and fun in your home? We’ve got you covered! Join us for this class which will give you a clear understanding of why young children behave as they do, why it pushes your buttons and how to offer support and guidance in ways that foster connection and long-term emotional well-being.

During our time together you will:

  • Discover what is happening in your child’s brain that causes them to act the way they do
  • Learn why your child’s behavior pushes your buttons
  • Learn why it is important and necessary to appropriately express your needs and limits
  • Discover the key ingredients of a deep connection with your child
  • Gather a set of new tools for creating balanced and joyful family life
  • Learn how to get what you want and need from your child by Slowing Down, Connecting and Enjoying life together.

This class will give you a revolutionary developmental approach to positive discipline.

There are two ways to participate in this class: teleclass or in person

To register for the workshop click here

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