Tag: living with toddlers

We love this question. And more than the question itself, we love the answer ,because the answer actually doesn’t come from us, it comes from within each parent. And it can change from day to day, hour to hour even.

So many times we are told, as parents, that “we must be consistent with our children.” And that is true. The missing piece to this answer however is that the consistency isn’t in the behaviour or in the schedule or in the rules applied, rather the consistency is in the temperment of the parent. In other words, the boundary lies within.

If one day you are well rested and feeling strong and capable as a parent, then you might feel totally fine with letting your 3 year old climb to the top of a very big slide and slide down. “Hooray!” You say as they reach the bottom. If however you are tired, or mentally preoccupied, or stressed out or distracted, that same slide another day might seem too overwhelming, so the boundary then shifts, within you, and that day the slide is off limits.

“But won’t my child be confused?”

Perhaps they will for a minute. But when you say no to them in as kind a way as you say yes, and you tell them, “I know you want to go up there but I’m really not up for it today. I know you did it last week, but you’ll have to wait until another day because today it’s freaking me out.”

In the big picture of parenthood and childhood, it is far better for the child to melt down from the no, than for the parent to melt down in the allowing something that is freaking them out. Because the end result of the parent freaking out is that the kid feels wrong or shamed or uncertain of whether your yes means yes or no or ends up freaking out anyway.

What do you think about that?

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This is a two part series that offers you both an introduction to toddlerhood and an overview on the whys and ways of staying sane, setting boundaries and having more fun.

We will be offering this 2-part workshop on Thursday May 14 and Thursday May 21 from 7-9pm

Part 1 – Know Thy Toddler: Tips and Tools for Parenting Your 1-3 year old

Let’s face it, parenting a toddler can be very challenging. Being a toddler is hard work, too. In the midst of massive brain and body development, they are asserting their own opinions and desperate to explore the world around them. As a result, this can leave you exhausted and at a loss for how to traverse their emotional terrain.

Toddlerhood is a world unto itself. Join us to learn the ins and outs of this phase of life.

During our time together you will:

  • Discover insightful and important information about this exceptional phase of development
  • Gain a whole new perspective on what it means to parent a toddler
  • Learn why this time of life can be so challenging for parents and how you can make it less so
  • Gather useful and effective tools for navigating these years with your growing child in ways that are fun and connected.

Part 2 – The Whys and Ways of Staying Sane, Setting Boundaries and Having More Fun

Are you committed to positive parenting but find yourself at a loss when times are tough between you and your child? Do you wish you had some tools for creating more harmony, cooperation and fun in your home? We’ve got you covered! Join us for this class which will give you a clear understanding of why young children behave as they do, why it pushes your buttons and how to offer support and guidance in ways that foster connection and long-term emotional well-being.

During our time together you will:

  • Discover what is happening in your child’s brain that causes them to act the way they do
  • Learn why your child’s behavior pushes your buttons
  • Learn why it is important and necessary to appropriately express your needs and limits
  • Discover the key ingredients of a deep connection with your child
  • Gather a set of new tools for creating balanced and joyful family life
  • Learn how to get what you want and need from your child by Slowing Down, Connecting and Enjoying life together.

This class will give you a revolutionary developmental approach to positive discipline.

There are two ways to participate in this class: teleclass or in person

To register for the workshop click here

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