It seems each child of mine pops up in a whole new stage this time of year. Like a new part of their being is born, new skills are mastered, new ideas are formulated. It’s wild to watch them slide into the next and it’s inspiring too to those of us supposedly past all these developmental spurts.
Our three year old has just learned the art of drawing people. A circle. Two arms. Two legs. Two eyes. And, for him who is obsessed with ears, two of those as well.
The 7 year old has moved onto chapter books and a whole new world awaits her.
The 10 year old is speed skating down the alley in his new roller blades. Olympic dreams in his head.
The 12 year old is drawing like crazy, doing portraits in black and white. In a style we’ve never seen in her drawings before.
These new skills sometimes present in a troubled way at first. As they work toward the newness, the shift, the big idea, they take a step back. They protest things a little bigger and a little more. They forget things they used to know.
Sometimes I remember that in the shifting comes the discomfort and the agony. But I don’t always. And I ask, “what the heck is wrong with them? Why are they acting this way? Why are they yelling/fighting/resisting/etc.?” And then the newness. And I smack myself on the forehead in recognition of the learning curve.
And me? I’m trying on this new hat of public speaking and loving it. Readings of essays. Story telling. Talks on parenting and slow family and any other topic that hits me close to home. It was a push to my edge at first. Now it’s a new love of mine.
I love spring and all the possibilities it presents. All the newness and the challenges to live our lives more fully as ourselves.
And I love when struggles have an explanation.