When my oldest was born, I received a lot of advice around parenting. Some applied. Some did not. Some was for the moment. While still others were maybe delivered a little too early or too late. The piece of advice I got though that really stuck, the one that has withstood the test of time and the one we have been able to apply to all aspects and ages of parenting was from my sister…
“It’s all a phase,” she said. “So revel in the good ones and know that the bad ones shall pass.”
These words have brought me through the darkest times and at the same time allowed me to really see and appreciate the bright and shiny moments as well.What I have come to know as the ebb and flow of parenting.
Whether I was parenting an infant growing a tooth or falling asleep on my chest for an afternoon nap. Whether I was guiding a toddler through a tantrum or helping him examine a dead butterfly. Whether I was assisting a 7 year old learning the code of our written language, or a 10 year old finding just the right chapter book or a 12 year old navigating the social waters. In all of it I was able to strive for full presence either suffering it or celebrating it – depending on the circumstances. All because I knew that this too shall pass.
Where are you now? Up? Down? In the darkness? Or in the light?
Find a loving ear or a helping hand or a total stranger to share in your joy.
And know that this too shall pass.
Only one other piece of advice has withstood this test of time and this one came from my brother…
“Don’t sweep until the rice dries.”
That one’s useful too.












10 Comments to 'This too shall pass'
February 16, 2010
I love this blog. I have been transforming my urban, fast-paced thinking and attitude to more of a slow pace now that I have kids. I see the value and the rewards of just being a family together. I can totally relate to the ‘tearing my hair out” feeling. My son is amazingly smart and completely wild. We have our hard weeks together.
Thanks for posting. Personally, I’m in the light right now. But a few weeks ago I was in the utter dark. Ugh!
February 16, 2010
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February 16, 2010
After having my son I rediscovered what it takes to care for a newborn. The good and the bad. I think in a way I completely forgot in the two short years it had been since my daughter was born. We are at two months now and I am really loving every smile and coo I get. Not to mention, the long nursing sessions where we stare into each others eyes. It really makes those first few weeks seem like they flew by, although at the time the felt like time had stopped.
My two year old and I are going through a “I hope this will be over soon” phase. I remind myself everyday, even though she is talking back and trying to be independent she still needs just as many hugs and kisses.
Thank you for the reminder.
February 16, 2010
Thanks Bernadette. Such a good reminder. No grasping or resisting, just being in the flow of it all.
February 16, 2010
That’s some serious wisdom right there. Thanks for posting this Bern. Love you!
February 16, 2010
i’ve always heard this about the bad stuff. never thought about it also being true to the yummy good stuff…to relish and enjoy, b/c like the yucky stuff, the fab times pass, too.
thanks so much Bernadette!
February 22, 2010
This came at such a pivotal time for me…. Thanks! My 3 year old is testing every moment and nerve we have and then turns around and reminds me of how sweet he can and used to be. My 9 month old is at a very exciting stage of crawling and so close to talking and walking and learning to eat by himself that at times i just want to be with him and hope the 3 yr old would just go away. Then of course i feel guilty later for feeling that way. I can hardly remember the first 3 months of our 2nd child’s life as we were potty training the first and so sleep deprived we could hardly see straight. But if I look back i can appreciate the progress that both children have made in the last 8 months.
I so appreciate this blog
Thanks again
February 23, 2010
Thanks for the reminder. One of the other phrases that always sticks with me is:
“The days may be long, but the years are short.”
March 14, 2010
Haha! That’s fantastic!! Both pieces of advice have spoken to me, as well, through these seasons of life. It’s great to find some kindred spirits.
March 23, 2010
My 3yr old is excitedly exploring letters AND pushing limits.
and the rice advice works for muffin crumbs too
Nice blog- my 1st time reading!
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